You may be surprised to hear that most of the progress
during a professional coaching engagement occurs between the
coaching sessions, not in coaching sessions. You are with
yourself for the periods between coaching sessions and have
the opportunity to coach yourself as you encounter
situations in your daily life.
Now the question is "How do I coach myself?" I am glad you
asked. Here are the questions to ask yourself in a
challenging situation. (Notice the power of open-ended
questions that start with "How" and "What".)
1. How can I do this?
2. What is holding me back in this situation? Then follow up
with "What else is holding me back here?"
3. What question will my professional coach ask me if I
bring this challenge to my next coaching session?
4. Who do I know who has already reached this goal or
overcome this challenge? How can I learn from them?
5. If I could not fail, what would I do in this situation?
6. How have I dealt with situations like this in the past?
7. If this is the perfect situation for me to be in right
now. and all of my life to this point was preparation for
this situation, what have my life experiences taught me to
8. Am I using my time wisely here?
9. What would happen if I walk away from this situation? Can
I live with this outcome?
10. What is the "blue sky" outcome in this situation? What
is the best possible outcome?
11. How will you describe your actions in this situation, to
your grandchildren fifteen years from now? What regrets will
haunt you as you tell your story?
The goal of your self-coaching is to help you make the best
of your life and go further than you normally would go.
Don't just give up as you run into challenges.
Self-coaching does not replace your work with a professional
coach. However, you can help yourself to think in new ways
when you face challenging situations with these simple